Parents, if your teen became pregnant, would you send her out of town/state to a private home for girls?
Jhazzi asked:
Would a loving residential setting be a consideration you’d make so that she could avoid the embarassment, shame, ridicule and gossip of her familiar surroundings? Would this be old-fashioned nowadays or would you find a home for pregnant teens (16-19) a good idea? This home would provide life skills training, budgeting and financial planning, healthy lifestyle lessons, parenting skills, social etiquette and conversation skills and planned parenthood classes. Your daughter would be required to continue her education, volunteer at a Assisted Living Home and Journal her stay at the Home. This would be her “home away from home” and she’d share a room with another female. They would have housekeeping chores and be supervised 24/7, not imprisoned but not have unrestricted freedom, either. Do you feel such an environment would be advantageous for a pregnant teen? The father of the baby could visit only with parental consent. Families could visit anytime if not interferring with school.
“Sending” her out of town/state only if she wants to go, of course. If the decision was made to give the baby up for adoption instead of terminating the pregnancy, would a loving residential home be an option for her? She would be required to continue her education, attend planned parenthood classes, volunteer at a Assisted Living Home and enjoy social and cultural events, under 24/7 supervision. How much would you pay monthly for her care? She would be taught teambuilding, social etiquette and conversational skills, budgeting and finance and required to Journal her stay while at her “home away from home.” Please elaborate as much as you’d like. Remember, she is NOT being forced to go away. The decision is made as a family in her best interest and that of your grandchild. I’m interested in your detailed comments and feedback.
I see that using the word “send” was a poor choice. The question isn’t to cast flesh of your flesh and bone of your bone into medieval times for torture because she made a mistake. I appreciate all the answers coming in as it’s helping with my survey/research. I have posed the question on a more “regulated” site and have received quite different responses. I’m not looking for answers that pleases me. I want to know what parents think. Of course, I’ve no idea if parents are answering as well as kids. A more “controlled” study is being done. Keep the answers coming!
For the uninformed, there are many residential places for pregnant teens in the US today, all paid for by your tax dollars. They are for “bad girls.” Just so you’ll know also, the question isn’t aimed at a situation I know of personally. I am sure there are teenagers who wish their parents felt as most of you feel but the reality is, not all parents support their children. Not all parents are good parents, themselves! Thanks for your answers.
Would a loving residential setting be a consideration you’d make so that she could avoid the embarassment, shame, ridicule and gossip of her familiar surroundings? Would this be old-fashioned nowadays or would you find a home for pregnant teens (16-19) a good idea? This home would provide life skills training, budgeting and financial planning, healthy lifestyle lessons, parenting skills, social etiquette and conversation skills and planned parenthood classes. Your daughter would be required to continue her education, volunteer at a Assisted Living Home and Journal her stay at the Home. This would be her “home away from home” and she’d share a room with another female. They would have housekeeping chores and be supervised 24/7, not imprisoned but not have unrestricted freedom, either. Do you feel such an environment would be advantageous for a pregnant teen? The father of the baby could visit only with parental consent. Families could visit anytime if not interferring with school.
“Sending” her out of town/state only if she wants to go, of course. If the decision was made to give the baby up for adoption instead of terminating the pregnancy, would a loving residential home be an option for her? She would be required to continue her education, attend planned parenthood classes, volunteer at a Assisted Living Home and enjoy social and cultural events, under 24/7 supervision. How much would you pay monthly for her care? She would be taught teambuilding, social etiquette and conversational skills, budgeting and finance and required to Journal her stay while at her “home away from home.” Please elaborate as much as you’d like. Remember, she is NOT being forced to go away. The decision is made as a family in her best interest and that of your grandchild. I’m interested in your detailed comments and feedback.
I see that using the word “send” was a poor choice. The question isn’t to cast flesh of your flesh and bone of your bone into medieval times for torture because she made a mistake. I appreciate all the answers coming in as it’s helping with my survey/research. I have posed the question on a more “regulated” site and have received quite different responses. I’m not looking for answers that pleases me. I want to know what parents think. Of course, I’ve no idea if parents are answering as well as kids. A more “controlled” study is being done. Keep the answers coming!
For the uninformed, there are many residential places for pregnant teens in the US today, all paid for by your tax dollars. They are for “bad girls.” Just so you’ll know also, the question isn’t aimed at a situation I know of personally. I am sure there are teenagers who wish their parents felt as most of you feel but the reality is, not all parents support their children. Not all parents are good parents, themselves! Thanks for your answers.